7 Ways to Overcome Self Limiting Beliefs For Good
All too often people fail before they even start. It’s easier to tell ourselves we aren’t good at something than to just try and see what happens. Why do we do this? Limiting Beliefs. The beliefs we have about our abilities either help or hinder our abilities. If we don’t engage with certain activities because we feel like we can’t do it then we end up being right. However if we tried it anyway we may find that with practice we can get better. What you believe is what will be.
- Always be a student. Realize that at times your thoughts may not serve you in a positive way. When you feel negativity come up look at where that learning came from. Keep investing in your learning/education. The more you learn about things that interest you the more of an expert you become which will help with your self-esteem. Take classes, get a coach, read, watch videos, practice meditation/yoga and continue to work on being the best version of you!
- FInd your why. Start journaling, talking to friends, doing research, whatever you need to do to dig deep and figure out what you are passionate about. Look for reasons why you need to push yourself. What is actually causing you pain? Is it something that needs to be changed, if so come up with a plan of how to change it. YOur pain can be used as a tool to help guide you if you let it be a teacher instead of letting it overwhelm you.
- What are the consequences? What will happen if you don’t make the changes you want to make? How will life be? How will life be if you do make changes. Write this down in a journal and make a vision/board. The more clear you are on what you WANT the easier it is to get there. Who do you want to be? Remind yourself every day with your daily affirmations that you deserve to be happy, confident and create the life you want.
- Take baby steps. Don’t expect things to change over night however, even teh smallest step forward will add up to become bigger later on. Start with rewording your negative thoughts to positive ones. Every time something negative comes up make a conscious effort to realize you thought it and then create a more positive thought. Start writing in a journal so you can go back and read what you have accomplished. Don’t focus on the negative things focus on the actions that are helping you move forward.
- Compare you to you! Too often we compare ourselves to other people and this can get us into a negative tailspin very quickly. Instead of looking where other people are, compare yourself to where you were when you started. This is where keeping that journal really comes in handy. Sometimes it’s hard to see the change but if we write things down we can watch the evolution. Focus on the new ways you are dealing with old issues, how will life be for you if you keep making this positive changes? Focus on the goal for you, you aren’t living someone else’s life you are living your own! Create what works for you!
- Use healthy self-care! Take time for you! Get into daily self-care regimens. I have found that during some of the worst times of my life the fact that I already had a good regimen in place really helped me to persevere. My personal favorites are Yoga, Meditation, Reiki, Music and reconnecting with my spiritual self. If you haven’t tried any of these I strongly recommend all of them. There have been more than a few times where I was doing a yoga pose and suddenly felt a tear stream down my cheek. The exercises and mind/body connected made emotions easier to let go of. Don’t let things get bottled up! I find that when my clients start with a regular self care routine BEFORE there is a major problem they are more resilient to life’s ups and downs.
- Be patient and kind to yourself! Changing old patterns can take time and practice! (if you want to accelerate the speed of change try Psych-K!). No matter what you do you have to practice these new behaviors until they become second nature to you. Making mistakes is part of the learning process so don’t get angry at yourself when things don’t always go exactly as planned. Beliefs are not the same as facts, you can change beliefs. Show yourself that you can practice new healthy beliefs and start trusting yourself, change will come!